The Intrepid Boyager

  She says she feels better now.  Just needed to get it out of her system.  😊

 No doubt this is an impactful topic for a lot of men and I am absolutely included in that group. While not tiny, I do have a below average sized penis that is especially small when flaccid.  This has always been an issue for me and I mean since a very young age.  Growing up, my best friend and I engaged in a lot of sexual activity.  More specifically, that is to say we'd masturbate together a lot but also that I would pleasure him by hand or mouth quite often.  He was three years older than me so he was already maturing ahead of me but to compound the situation, he was well endowed and, as I said, I was decidedly not. We quit playing with each other as we entered our teens but he commonly teased me about my small dick and he would sometimes bring it up around girls.  I also had terrible cystic acne so as a teenage boy, these were deeply impactful conditions.  I felt so terribly awkward and unattractive around girls.  That was especially difficult...

 Today was...wow... Although Mistress isn't a personal fan of pink, she knows I like it (always have, long before any of this) but more importantly, she knows it's a powerful emasculating color and so, of course, she strives to make the most of it. The day started with me shaving my legs as usual.  I use a Phillips 6000 electric razor on my legs and ass from about an inch below my knee up.  The lower leg is left hairy due to summer and shorts wearing.  Then I did my usual Sunday shower.  That entails me using a stiff-bristled shower brush over my entire body.  It is borderline painful (especially in sensitive areas) but leaves my skin feeling so good.  Then I replace the blade in my Bulldog razor and shave my entire groin area. Today when I exited I was instructed to put on the new pair of frilly pink panties Mistress just bought for me.  These are the most over-the-top girly panties she's ever gotten for me   Considering she did not rea...

 Yesterday, Domme T was exceedingly horny and after a nice lunch she ordered me into the bedroom and to strip naked.  Of course I did as told.  I was eleven days into denial. Mistress had me lay on my side and then she snugged up tight behind me, spooning me and pressing herself into my back.  She had two vibrators going; a larger one she likes on her clit and a small curved one she likes to insert.  They were humming away and she was crushing her pelvis into my ass.  She was stroking my raging and drippy cock and I was focused on my breathing to keep from cumming. Of course she was teasing me the entire time about how long it had been since I came, how hard and wet I was, how pathetically desperate I was, and so on.  That just made me all the hotter. She was super hot herself and it didn't take long before her soft moans turned to heavy grunts and snatches of quick breaths.  As her orgasm subsided and she enjoyed the continued tease of her vibrat...

 Recently, Mistress instructed me to compile a list of my favorite things to engage in and put them in order of preference.  A few things didn't need to be on the list as they have become standards such as orgasm control, panty wearing, and toenail painting. This was actually hard as I could make a pretty big list but more so, trying to put them in order was really taxing.  After the first three, the margins of separation are very slim and can be totally dependent on mood and application at the time.  At the time of instruction, I wasn't given any reason for the list, just that I was to create it. Here's what I handed in... Participate in you achieving orgasm. Watching you achieve orgasm. Strap on and other dildo play (receiving). Showering and drying me. Paddle, spanking, etc. Psychological play (mindfucks, games, etc.) CBT play Skin play (scratching, Wartenberg wheel, etc.) Humiliation play Bondage I still don't know specifics but I suspect the list serves a couple...

So when I started getting serious about male chastity and really researching it so I could be educated to help introduce my wife to it, one thing I came across (no pun intended) fairly routinely was that if men don't get some kind of release at some sort of interval, it is bad for the prostate.  The assertion generally goes that the prostate builds up fluids and that is somehow bad for it and therefore, while the Dominant doesn't have to provide a pleasurable orgasm, they should do something to cause a "release". The most common approaches I seem to find were full, regular orgasms, ruined orgasms, and prostate milking.  The first one doesn't need any explanation but for those who may not be familiar, a ruined orgasm is just what you're probably thinking - you bring the man right to the brink, past the point of no return and then stop your contact.  The result is, since they are too far gone, they ejaculate but don't get the intense pleasure because you did...

 It's undeniable that this foray back into power exchange and giving myself fully and completely to my wife is having a profound impact on me.  It's incredible and I welcome it.  Cherish it! The truth is, I've been difficult at times and made it more trying for her than it should be.  I'm still adjusting and really working on my behavior but I need to work harder for her.  I genuinely believe I've been quite service oriented and lovingly attentive and she has expressed her acknowledgement of that but then I'll say dumb shit. A prime example is some form of, "Did you enjoy that?"  In whatever form I ask, or subtly prod, it just pisses her off and rightfully so.  For whatever reason, I'm worried that she's doing things to make me happy despite her repeatedly demonstrating that is far from the case.  Her imagination and involvement in this journey has been exceptional and should have long put my concerns to bed.  She's been amazing.  And no...

 And no, I don't mean my dick.  😁  Well, not directly anyway.  I mean, when is it the most challenging to remain chaste?  When does desire become a real presence and make you question your choices?  Are there particular moments or circumstances?  I'm not talking about tease sessions, those are obvious. For me it is the time I just left: a mid-day nap.  This has historically been a time when we'd engage in sex.  Not always of course but frequently.  It started when the kids were little and on those rare occasions that we could sneak in some quite time alone, and generally being exhausted, we'd lay down for a mid-day nap and that often led to sex.  It might just be masturbating together with light touching or a full blown romp, but it was a common time for intimacy and pleasure.   And more or less, that has continued all these years.  Maybe not as frequently as it used to as the kids are long out of the house so sex is...

 Yesterday, for reasons, I decided it would be best to wear my actual men's underwear for the day.  Domme T agreed and gave permission.  Now, my men's underwear are pretty slinky compared to a lot of styles out there.  I wore bikini briefs that, a few months ago, I thought were rather tiny. So, I slipped a pair on and they immediately felt hot.  Then throughout the day they were always in the back of my mind.  I felt like I was wrapped in a horse blanket! This morning, I shaved my legs and showered.  I rubbed tea tree oil into my legs and crotch (smells awesome) and slipped on a pair of black, lace panties.  All was right in the world again!  I did started the laundry and vacuumed wearing nothing but my panties and painted toes.  😊 My new "naughty" panties that Mistress surprised me with are washed and I'm to wear them to work tomorrow. I guess I'm officially a panty boy now.

 

 I'm sure most if not all new comers to chastity find themselves asking this question.  Is it the waiting or the eventual orgasm that is better?  I know most have answered this for themselves a long time but I'm still exploring. When we first started, my chastity cycles were no more than a week.  This more or less jived with our "regular" sex schedule.  Saturdays just seemed to become the day for such activities and she continued that into chastity.  We'd occasionally engage during the week but for the most part, Saturday was sex day. The difference between then and now is one, I was masturbating.  I'd jack off at least a couple times a week so what I was really looking forward to was having an orgasm she induced.  And two, she never used to tease me so relentlessly as she does now!  It's daily and often quite intense and makes the abstinence sooooo much harder!  A week sure seemed like a long longer time than it used to! We got out of c...

 Well, I now have my own stick of lavender scented Secret deodorant! She started out by once in a while handing me hers to use but now I just have my own. The journey continues...

 In our initial exploration of this lifestyle several years ago, Domme T was not that into my feminization.  We explored it some and she was willing to allow me to continue but she was never really into it.  I honestly think it was a little too much for her then.  She was great about experimenting but I knew it wasn't really clicking with her so it faded out. Fast forward to modern times and it is a different story.  In another post, I talked about her buying me panties very early on in our new journey and in fact it is now established routine that I am to wear nothing but my panties around the house so long as it is just her and I.  I can have a t-shirt and socks but if I cover my panties, there better be a reason. For a long time she's required me to keep my genitals shaven but now she's incorporated inspections.  Knowing I've long desired to shave my legs, she allowed me to shave them from the knees up.  This desire on my part is less about fem...

 Right up front, let me say that I don't know how different men should ask their respective wives to place their husbands in chastity.  Or girlfriends and boyfriends, or hell, boyfriends and boyfriends, for that matter.  Though that does bring up an interesting question of if it is an easier transition for a M/M couple? Anyway, I can only say that you should do some real soul searching before you ever bring it up.  Get your thoughts together the best you can.  Don't just say stuff like, "it'll be so hot!"  That's probably not going to cut it.  Sharing some of your feelings, especially some vulnerable ones will most definitely help. If you're not currently engaged in a power exchange relationship, or at least well familiar with them, this can be quite a shock for your partner.  They may even take it as a form of rejection and that is the very last reaction you want them to have.  But you should understand that they might feel that way and it i...

 There's an old saying about  straight men, "They spend nine months trying to get out and the rest of their lives trying to get back in!"  😄   Straight, gay or somewhere in between, I don't think I need to dwell on how horny men are. So why in the world would a man, especially a husband, willingly submit to being placed in chastity?!  Hell if I know!  😂   Okay, maybe some pondering... I actually prefer the term Regimented Orgasm Control (ROC) to chastity just because I think it encompasses more facets to this powerful dynamic. When Domme T and I first engaged in BDSM all those years ago, I was certainly intrigued by chastity and even talked to her about it more than once.  But it wasn't really something she was very keen on then.  She did like controlling my orgasms but there were no restrictions on me in terms of masturbation or the like.  Well, maybe short-term play but nothing more than a day or two. That is absolutely not...

 I have more general topic posts planned but I have to interrupt the flow to gush about what just happened.  I'm six days into my current chastity cycle and have been very horny, especially today, and Domme T knows it.   We had some running around to do and just got back.  Mistress retired to her bed and I thought she was going to take a well deserved nap.  I sat down in the living room, actually intending to work on this fledgling blog.  Within a few minutes I heard her call my name and dutifully strode to see what she needed. I was so pleasantly surprised to see bare cleavage above the blankets.  Her legs were writhing slightly and I could her the dull hum of her vibrator between her legs. "You may stand there," she said with a low, husky voice. My cock instantly strained against my little red panties and I swallowed hard. She cooed and moaned and squirmed about.  The tone of her vibrator changing from barely audible to bright and loud as s...

  Is there any use in crying over spilt milk?   You don't need to have been around very long to know that quite often, men can be quite different people right before and orgasm and right after one.  I'm no medical or psych expert by any means, just a man who has orgasms.  😁  There's no question I experience this phenomena and it's something I've thought on quite a lot.  As the post title suggests, I've coined this The Post Orgasm Crash, or TPOC. I know this is another thing that upsets many women and it can be just as upsetting to us men when it happens. Let me say right up front, that I think TPOC is deeply hard wired in the male brain.  I clearly have no idea, but perhaps it is the last remnants of an ancient survival mechanism that caused the male to be hyper focused on mating and then as soon as his seed spilled, he was compelled to distance himself from the female.  Maybe to allow others the chance to breed her or maybe a safety functio...

 Why do men masturbate?  Why do men masturbate so often?  Do all men masturbate?  I think it's very important to talk about men and masturbation very early on the life of this blog.  I think this is a foundational topic and critical to understand in a submissive male/submissive husband relationship.  Understanding our motivations to masturbate can help us as submissives and more importantly, our Dominant, especially if that person is a woman. Obviously I can't speak for all men and can only relate my own experiences and maybe some things other men have shared with me, but I suspect a lot of men will be able to relate to these thoughts. First, let me establish I'll be talking in what I believe are the overwhelming majority of men, not rare exceptions.  So in answering the question, do all men masturbate, I'll say yes.  And they've all been doing it for a long time.  Some start sooner than others, but all men have been pleasuring themselves sin...

 A Man and His Panties:  Within a couple days of our stepping back onto the power exchange path, Domme T was instructing me to retrieve a freshly delivered package from the porch.  Of course, I dutifully complied and upon handing her the box, I began to turn away when she commanded me to stop and stay facing her. As she began opening the package she told me to take off my pants and underwear.  Within seconds I was before her, naked from the waist down.  I honestly wasn't quite sure what she was up to but I was still excited and my half-erect penis confirmed it. My chin dropped when Mistress pulled multiple pairs of dainty, lacey, boy short style women's panties out of the package.  This was something I experimented with many years ago and she did not really approve of.  But now, here she was introducing it to me.  As I said in another post, we've changed and evolved.  She had a particular fondness for the peach-colored ones and selected them ...

While we maintained a fairly well stocked bedside drawer of toys, we had a separate toolbox for most of our D/s gear.  And I do mean a literal toolbox.  It resides in the bottom of a closet and for years it had been silently awaiting the return of a friendly hand to wrap its yellow handle and bring back into the light.  That's just what I did and I brought it before Domme T so that we could reacquaint ourselves with it's contents.  Both of us had forgotten some of what was in there. She immediately turned up her nose at some of the items and instructed me to discard them.  She doesn't like gags and there was cheaper stuff too that she wanted purged.  But there were also some real treasures that symbolized so much love and devotion.  The most notable were a paddle I made for her out of dense poly and with a handle wrapped in hockey tape.  This is a tool of pure function without consideration of aesthetics.  The contact portion of the paddle is...

 My wife and I have been married for 37 years.  Intimacy has never been an issue with us and we've had a fulfilling and sometimes adventurous sex life with me being the much more openly kink oriented.  But that not to say in anyway she has ever been prudish and she has nearly always embraced both her and mine desires, even the kinky ones.  To that end, several years ago, maybe as many twenty now, we began to dabble in BDSM or D/s. She assumed the Dominant role and I the submissive one.  Despite my outward very Alpha male personality, this role suited me very well and I relished the relinquishing of control.  Likewise, she quite naturally embraces the Dominant side.  I don't remember how long we engaged in these activities but for myriad reasons, it eventually stopped and more or less remained just a memory for all these years. That was until a few weeks ago.  During a particularly hot intimacy session my wife was being quite aggressive and also en...