The Intrepid Boyager

Like most married couples, we sometimes get out of synch.  We're well past full blown arguments but still, tense disagreements can occur.  This is especially true when you're engaged in this kind of dynamic.  There is a lot of emotion involved and it can be a complex situation. It's very important to remember that you're both human beings.  Your relationship must come first.  Power Exchange is just a facet of the foundational relationship that must already be there.  You both have desires, wants, needs, insecurities, strengths, and weaknesses.  Each of you wants to feel loved and to give love.  You want to feel needed and to make the other person feel needed.  You both want to be happy. I think ignoring all of that under the umbrella of power exchange is a terrible idea.  Sure the first few months that you start exploring a PE relationship can be super fun and thrilling and even blissful.  But when the shiny starts to wear off and t...

 Like so many others, life can absolutely get in the way of our activities.  Sure, there's the subtle constants but the more deliberate, thoughtful stuff, even the small stuff, can drop off as we deal with work, health, schedules, and so on.  We don't live a strict Female Led Relationship or hardcore Dominatrix life.  I've said in other posts that we have more of a Mommy/boy dynamic.  Yes, she is my domestic dominant, and I'm required to obey her, but we're also regular folks with priorities and realities too. And so it has been for the past couple weeks.  It's interesting as the dynamic is always just under the surface and I think we both can feel the frustration of not tapping into it.  Sometimes I think we're both wanting it but unsure if the other is feeling it so it doesn't happen until one of us just breaks the ice again.  I'm very happy that more and more it is her that snaps us back into the dynamic.  I adore it.  Crave it. Anywa...

 PLEASE LEAVE COMMENTS.  MISTRESS IS OPENING HERSELF UP AND I'D LOVE TO ENCOURAGE HER TO DO MORE.  IF YOU WANT CLARIFICATION OF ANYTHING OR HAVE QUESTIONS FOR EITHER OF US, PLEASE ASK! ************************* BACKSTORY:  We’ve been married for 37 years.  I’m in my fifties and she is in her sixties.  Back in the 2000’s we got pretty heavy into D/s with her as the Dominant and me as something of a switch.  In hindsight I know that was mainly because I was not fully submitting.  I was fighting the bit and was selfish.  We even invited others into our sex life and had a long distance, but occasionally in-person, girlfriend. But, partly because of my attitude and porn addiction, and various other aspects of life our D/s went dormant.  That was until late last year when I started to reintroduce it and she cautiously began to open back up to it.  Then in early spring of this year I went all in.  I knew this time I had to fully commi...

 Domme T has been easing back into our D/s relationship but the past few days she ratcheted things up and is finding her groove!  💓 I came home from work the other day to find she'd made me a new calendar on a small whiteboard.  She explained that this is for tracking my orgasms, counting down the days until I might get one, and more importantly, to give a ready display of my behavior. She's come up with some abbreviations and already had the first couple days marked as "GB/Br".  This indicates I was a Good Boy and I was taken to the Brink (edging).  Sadly, I did earn two Bad Boy days.  One for disobedience and one for forgetting to kiss her hand as soon as I got home.  But, I did get a Br both days and also had a CS which is Cock Slapping.  She's really taken to enjoying teasing and tormenting my cock and balls with her crop.  She likes to pinch open the leather flap and put it over my cock so she can jack me off with it or twist it to her ...

This will be a thread I'll need to update in the coming days but I wanted to get it started. Domme T had an early morning family engagement that she really wasn't looking forward to and she was out the door just as I was getting going.  In hopes of putting a smile on her face, I waited a little while and then sent her this picture and asked if it was a purple kind of day? She has bought me all my panties but this one of two pair of frilly ones that she got me.  She gets in moods when she really likes the over-the-top aspect of them. She replied, "Yes!" A while later, I sent her another pic to let her know I was thinking of her.  💧😘 She was getting my pics and texts with her elderly mother and her sister right around her.  When she got home she told me that her sister came up behind her as she was looking at this picture and she hid her phone real quick.  Her sister asked her, "What are you hiding?" She said she smiled and replied, "None of your busine...

 Last night as another WOW  night!  I'm still buzzing, especially my prostate.  😁💦 A couple days ago, Mistress sent me a text that read, "Bring me some lunch and I'll shove something up your ass."  Of course, I eagerly complied!  After lunch she told me that she would fulfill her promise on Friday (last night).  And fulfill, and fill, she did!  😊 It started with her directing me to wear my  "small penis" underwear that she purchased me.   She knows they get in my head.  So all day I was being reminded of my undeniably small penis.  It is the most unique feeling.  At once embarrassing, yet totally liberating. Through out the day she teased me here and there with quick strokes, rubbing me through my underwear, and that sort of thing.  She also repeatedly told me that she was absolutely going to shove something up my ass later.  She said with a hint of excitement and enthusiasm that just made me even more giddy....

 In the last post titled,  Spontaneous Combustion , I showed one of my homemade tools that she aptly named the Hell Bitch.  I've made us a number of tools over the years from paddles to gags to spreader bars but it has been a long time since I did so and well...she's gotten my creative juices flowing again.  Know what I mean?  😉😈 I'm a little out of woodworking practice so some mistakes were made but overall, I'm pleased with the results.  This was all done with simple hand tools so you can do it! She gave me a couple practice swats and then christened her the Sweet Bitch.  She picked out the decorative tacks and the pattern and since there are fourteen of them, she declared that is how many whacks I will get when she is ready to use it with sincerity.  But, she is definitely pleased and appreciative.  😍 There's something uniquely deviant about taking the time to make the items you know are going to be used "against" you.   Here ...

 Last night was... Whoosh!  😋😍 It was a Friday and I'd been thinking about her all day.  Both non-sexually but of course, in the most deviant ways as well.  😁  I got out of work a little early and stopped at the store then headed home.  It's been crazy hot for several days but yesterday it was cool and rainy and it felt wonderful.  She had the front door open with just the screen door closed, letting the cool air inside. We had some lunch and it was perfect napping weather so we decided to take advantage of it and laid down.  In no time she was out but my mind was running and I couldn't sleep. Several years ago, on our first foray into D/s, I would make a lot of our implements.  Paddles, gags, even a spreader bar.  For the most part, these were/are tools.  The focus is on effectiveness, not attractiveness.  I'd been thinking of making her a new paddle.  A nice wooden one and one that would have some authority but not be...

PRE-STORY BACKSTORY:   On one of the forums I visit, a thread posted asking bi-curious guys what they fantasize about the most.  In both my real world bi encounters as an adult I was pretty much the top.   But in my fantasies, and the dirty talk I share with my wife, it is very much the opposite and I'm the bottom. I have two main fantasy themes that get detail tweaks but the base idea remains. In both, she is there, fully clothed and not participating in a meaningful physical way. Watching, encouraging, even degrading me for what I'm so eagerly engaging in.  Below is a story about one of those themes. ON WITH THE FANTASY STORY... We've all already communicated online and met briefly in person.  We're all comfortable and feel safe moving forward. He's never been with a man before and he's nervous and feeling awkward.  I'm also anxious but my past experiences say it's best to just get things started.  I get him a beverage and beckon him to sit on t...